wonderful story
i so envy Stephen
i njoyed the story and was living it through Stpehen
Wonderpup
Posted February 10, 2010 at 10:33 AM
What I liked most about this article is the encouragement of SL BDMS people to meet RL BDSMers and vice versa. Time is only wasted when one group disrespects another when they can be gaining mutually instead. Keep up the great work!
Lucian
Posted February 21, 2010 at 2:40 PM
Very nice article. I’m myself a sub and often return to my SL home downhearted, by the amount of crap that is sold, from a shopping trip.
From the mentioned creators i only knew two of them. Would it be possible to link to such shops in an article?
Lucian, I hand picked the Femdom animation and toy designers that are located over at Dominion Fetish. All of the big ones are there and they are all high quality. I would definitely recommend that as the first stop for anyone looking for Femdom items.
Madeleine
Posted February 22, 2010 at 9:06 AM
Lucian, if you are looking for a particular one you can’t find, get a hold of me. I still have all that info. And thank you!
addamms
Posted March 12, 2010 at 12:58 AM
How easily we are intimidated and manipulated. The truth of the matter is that most of us would have to be forced the way James was. Good story.
As always, it was a joy to share time with you in first life today Your words are quite poetic, lovely Lady. Thank you for sharing your perspective from the top
Warm Hugs,
Mistress Lisa
Mistress Raffi
Posted March 16, 2010 at 1:13 PM
Thank you Sue, wonderpup and Mistress Lisa for your kind words.
Mistress Lisa refers in her post to the munch of the femdom group she founded nearly a decade ago. LADs. The style of LADs munch has been the inspiration for the weekly munch I host as a duchess at the Velvet Thorn in SL. Mistress Lisa’s welcoming attitude and the high standards the circle of LADs Leaders set for the group inspire everyone who comes.
wowww raffi !! i’m sooo proud of you, you know it yes such a long way since we met…….
time left, memories stay ^^
Hugs Raffi
Marco
Posted June 7, 2010 at 4:25 AM
In my experience, I learned that some Femdom believe that slaves are stupid and must obey any command. This is true, but it is also true that the commands must be given by the degree of affinity that is created. Unfortunately, in Second Life there are many people who believe that the role of the Mistress is higher than that of the slave, but not absolutely so. Two roles are of equal importance, even though it was completely opposite. A slave without a Mistress is nothing. A Mistress is nothing without a slave.
I appreciate the discussion on switching as it seems to me to have a bad rap in the BDSM community. There are probably many more switches out there who are afraid to let others know.
Robyn from NJ
Posted April 25, 2011 at 12:25 PM
This is a very well researched and well written article. It was nice to see fact and case law rather than oppinion. I learned a few things to protect myself and partners when conducting lifestyle as well as proDomme BDSM as a result from this article. Good common sense normally prevails normally, but it is critical to know that the the legal system in the US is not quite up the common sense test.
Let’s all be careful out there!
Ms Broome and Ms Eames well done! And thank You both.
Mistress Robyn
11. What happened to your website and forum, Ms Rika?
Nuala
Posted April 28, 2011 at 12:59 AM
There’s nothing colder than just abandoning someone on SL–especially if it’s someone you care deeply for, a sub or a Domme. I had a close friend do this, and found out later she was logging in on alts, and I was devastated. I recently had the memory of it come flooding back to me when my submissive got very ill–he becomes avoidant when he’s sick, and I didn’t get his text messages. Luckily I had RL contact information. There is absolutely no excuse for abandoning someone without a word. If you’re asking someone to trust you so deeply that you’ve ask them to wear your collar or you’re wearing theirs, you are in a position to damage their trust. SL is not “just a game” and the people in it are not cartoons who disappear when you shut your computer off. I am SO sorry that you had this experience.
Doc Nolan
Posted May 2, 2011 at 5:28 AM
Fascinating article…. Interesting that none of the cited cases involved lifestyle dommes or female domination within the confines of either marriage or ‘continuing relationships’, though — absent a complainant and evidence — I suppose even the most zealous campaigner would have trouble bringing that to a court of law.
Madeleine
Posted May 5, 2011 at 6:12 AM
Thanks Robyn!
@Doc Nolan
You’re right. I think I found all of the reported BDSM cases for the United States, even if we didn’t use them in the article, but I never ran across a F/m version. I did see a couple marriages and several long-term relationships that were either M/f or M/m. I tend to think it’s because men feel embarrassed to make that sort of domestic violence report against women, the same as in vanilla relationships. Then again, maybe Dommes are just being more careful in seeking out partners, as I wasn’t finding the F/f variety either.
Mrs. Maxima
Posted May 12, 2011 at 2:21 PM
What is a Girl to do, now that She can no longer ponytrain Her husband at the OWK grounds? No more “best whipped male ass” contests…..
I visited the OWK Myself and celebrated Femdom there. So did lots of My Friends.
It is a great loss that the OWK has closed its enormous doors.
If they ever re-open… You Ladies all better visit.
It is (was) a wonderfull place.
Ms_Rika
Posted May 27, 2011 at 6:09 PM
A couple of years ago, the site was not properly renewed and some a-hole stole it. He offered the URL back to me for $2500. I declined. Nowadays, I enjoy conversation with folks on FetLife.com and my writing is getting channeled more directly. It’s been working for me. Thanks for asking.
- Rika.
Femdom Magazine
Posted May 31, 2011 at 7:35 PM
Since this article was published the OWK website has advertised two public auctions of OWK equipment and the content on The FEMDOM REPUBLIC website has been removed.
Gina
Posted June 9, 2011 at 5:39 PM
Good interview.
MistressRaffi
Posted July 26, 2011 at 3:46 PM
Nuala, Kudos to you on the professional attitude and skills you brought to this article. Your work would be graded “A”, if it were a
magazine article writing class assignment.
While I am familiar with financial domination, I was not aware of the risks a domina faces. I am glad you looked at the topic from many angles.
WELL DONE!!!! hugs, Raffi
The clothing does more than add to the fantasy. Leather clothing gives an air of authority and makes you “untouchable”. Latex clothing feeds fetishes. Both set you apart from the average bossy woman on the street.
Many folks do see ProDommes as glorified escorts. They don’t know what the term Dominatrix means so they relate it to the closest thing they understand.
Lifestylers tend to disagree with ProDomme sessions for several reasons. MOST ProDommes openly engage in illegal activity such as golden showers and using strap-ons to engage in anal sex with clients. Then they deny they are doing anything illegal or engaging in prostitution even though local state laws explicitly define it as such. Also there are a good number of ProDommes who are not properly trained, have no real interest in the scene outside of making money, have bad attitudes and troll for clients at lifestyle parties (a big no-no). In other cases I think there is more than a little bit of jealousy because, let’s face it, ProDommes oftentimes have awesome toys, outfits and dungeons—your average lifestylers wouldn’t have a place to put it all if they could afford it. For a ProDomme it’s a business expense.
Good article, thanks for posting.
Windsweptgold
Posted July 30, 2011 at 7:00 AM
Great article but personally I do not like the financial Dommes, I can understand the pro Domme it is different but the financial often are just lazy women looking for a free ride. ( my view )
Gabrielle Rhapsody
Posted August 3, 2011 at 4:22 PM
Maddie, thanks so much for your reviews. In addition to being very informative, they also often have me laughing my ass off! Well done!
Iren Tinkel
Posted August 31, 2011 at 5:36 AM
“For example, there’s a “pony” pose that allows you to sit on your sub like you are mounted on a horse. It’s not static, but it doesn’t go anywhere, either” – so you just can get PonyRider for this!I also have it in my store.
Pandemia Kass
Posted September 10, 2011 at 8:22 AM
About FEMDOM HUD-DELUXE by .::ONIRIA SHOP::.
Hi. That’s the first time I writte a comment about anything here, but…. I do it because I’m totally disagree with the article about this item.
I have it sice October 2010, since ONIRIA SHOP launch it, and…. really I don’t understand the bad reviews posted on the magazine’s article.
About balls…. I don’t know where they test it, but in my case, THE BALLS APPEARS JUST WHERE THEY MUST BE, not four meters from the furniture, and I know what I’m talking about, because I use it very regularly, in any SIM that allows me to rez objects.
About the sequenced anims….. Are they too hard for you?…. Maybe, but not for me. That’s the only HUD I find with different sequences anims, where you (dom), among other things, jump over the shoulders of your sub, you throw down, you move over it to finish by the throat gently with your legs, and all in a full long sequence anim.
In another sequence, you still standing and he kneeling, you give it a kick in his shoulder, he strips down and moving over it, you end up sitting on his face ….
Too hard??…. I do not think so, are different and interesting to use these sequences when we want, not all day every day.
I really think is very interesting HUD and, if you don’t understand anything, you can ask to creator AULEN HELENDALE, she was very pleasent with me with some questions.
You can try it before buy it, because there is a DEMO in the shop to check it.
I leave here the shop LM, because I think the best way is all of you check it by yourself (for all readers of the magazine): http://slurl.com/secondlife/Glitnir/173/166/22
Aulen Helendale
Posted September 11, 2011 at 5:40 AM
ONIRIA SHOP – FEMDOM HUD DELUXE
Hi everubody. I’m the creator of FEMDOM HUD DELUXE, from ONIRIA SHOP.
I can understand perfectly that somebody think some anims are too hard, there’s no discusion about it (each one has it own preferences), but I’m not agree about “but about four meters from the poses”.
Please, I invite everybody to check it in the shop, you can use the full menu (there is a DEMO to check)…. and you can see if the anims and furniture are not where they must be. http://slurl.com/secondlife/Glitnir/173/166/22
Thanks
male servant
Posted September 12, 2011 at 4:16 PM
Well written article. i would like to warn my submissive brothers to be very careful when gifting to strangers for a couple reasons. One, She could use get used to it and resort to blackmail to feed Her addiction if you decide to quit. She probably will have a lot of info. on you as a result. Second, you need money to survive and you aren’t any help to a WOman if you are drained. So think long and hard, pun intended.
MistressRaffi
Posted July 4, 2012 at 2:25 PM
Eva said that magazine wouldn’t have happened without you. She had the vision. It was your professionalism and guidance that made it a shining
reality. Thank you Maddie for all you’ve done. Thank you for smiling
through disappointments and deadlines. We salute you! In gratitude, Raffi
Raffi – What a wonderful article, I thoroughly enjoyed reading it! Thank you
love this very much and it opened my mind more well done.
Thank you for putting this together! It’s a nice site!
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wonderful story
i so envy Stephen
i njoyed the story and was living it through Stpehen
What I liked most about this article is the encouragement of SL BDMS people to meet RL BDSMers and vice versa. Time is only wasted when one group disrespects another when they can be gaining mutually instead. Keep up the great work!
Very nice article. I’m myself a sub and often return to my SL home downhearted, by the amount of crap that is sold, from a shopping trip.
From the mentioned creators i only knew two of them. Would it be possible to link to such shops in an article?
Lucian, I hand picked the Femdom animation and toy designers that are located over at Dominion Fetish. All of the big ones are there and they are all high quality. I would definitely recommend that as the first stop for anyone looking for Femdom items.
Lucian, if you are looking for a particular one you can’t find, get a hold of me. I still have all that info. And thank you!
How easily we are intimidated and manipulated. The truth of the matter is that most of us would have to be forced the way James was. Good story.
Greetings Mistress Raffila,
As always, it was a joy to share time with you in first life today
Your words are quite poetic, lovely Lady. Thank you for sharing your perspective from the top 
Warm Hugs,
Mistress Lisa
Thank you Sue, wonderpup and Mistress Lisa for your kind words.
Mistress Lisa refers in her post to the munch of the femdom group she founded nearly a decade ago. LADs. The style of LADs munch has been the inspiration for the weekly munch I host as a duchess at the Velvet Thorn in SL. Mistress Lisa’s welcoming attitude and the high standards the circle of LADs Leaders set for the group inspire everyone who comes.
Thank you for your kind words, Ma’am
wowww raffi !! i’m sooo proud of you, you know it yes
such a long way since we met…….
time left, memories stay ^^
Hugs Raffi
In my experience, I learned that some Femdom believe that slaves are stupid and must obey any command. This is true, but it is also true that the commands must be given by the degree of affinity that is created. Unfortunately, in Second Life there are many people who believe that the role of the Mistress is higher than that of the slave, but not absolutely so. Two roles are of equal importance, even though it was completely opposite. A slave without a Mistress is nothing. A Mistress is nothing without a slave.
I appreciate the discussion on switching as it seems to me to have a bad rap in the BDSM community. There are probably many more switches out there who are afraid to let others know.
This is a very well researched and well written article. It was nice to see fact and case law rather than oppinion. I learned a few things to protect myself and partners when conducting lifestyle as well as proDomme BDSM as a result from this article. Good common sense normally prevails normally, but it is critical to know that the the legal system in the US is not quite up the common sense test.
Let’s all be careful out there!
Ms Broome and Ms Eames well done! And thank You both.
Mistress Robyn
Sorry to see this legendary place come to an end.
11. What happened to your website and forum, Ms Rika?
There’s nothing colder than just abandoning someone on SL–especially if it’s someone you care deeply for, a sub or a Domme. I had a close friend do this, and found out later she was logging in on alts, and I was devastated. I recently had the memory of it come flooding back to me when my submissive got very ill–he becomes avoidant when he’s sick, and I didn’t get his text messages. Luckily I had RL contact information. There is absolutely no excuse for abandoning someone without a word. If you’re asking someone to trust you so deeply that you’ve ask them to wear your collar or you’re wearing theirs, you are in a position to damage their trust. SL is not “just a game” and the people in it are not cartoons who disappear when you shut your computer off. I am SO sorry that you had this experience.
Fascinating article…. Interesting that none of the cited cases involved lifestyle dommes or female domination within the confines of either marriage or ‘continuing relationships’, though — absent a complainant and evidence — I suppose even the most zealous campaigner would have trouble bringing that to a court of law.
Thanks Robyn!
@Doc Nolan
You’re right. I think I found all of the reported BDSM cases for the United States, even if we didn’t use them in the article, but I never ran across a F/m version. I did see a couple marriages and several long-term relationships that were either M/f or M/m. I tend to think it’s because men feel embarrassed to make that sort of domestic violence report against women, the same as in vanilla relationships. Then again, maybe Dommes are just being more careful in seeking out partners, as I wasn’t finding the F/f variety either.
What is a Girl to do, now that She can no longer ponytrain Her husband at the OWK grounds? No more “best whipped male ass” contests…..
I visited the OWK Myself and celebrated Femdom there. So did lots of My Friends.
It is a great loss that the OWK has closed its enormous doors.
If they ever re-open… You Ladies all better visit.
It is (was) a wonderfull place.
A couple of years ago, the site was not properly renewed and some a-hole stole it. He offered the URL back to me for $2500. I declined. Nowadays, I enjoy conversation with folks on FetLife.com and my writing is getting channeled more directly. It’s been working for me. Thanks for asking.
- Rika.
Since this article was published the OWK website has advertised two public auctions of OWK equipment and the content on The FEMDOM REPUBLIC website has been removed.
Good interview.
Nuala, Kudos to you on the professional attitude and skills you brought to this article. Your work would be graded “A”, if it were a
magazine article writing class assignment.
While I am familiar with financial domination, I was not aware of the risks a domina faces. I am glad you looked at the topic from many angles.
WELL DONE!!!! hugs, Raffi
The clothing does more than add to the fantasy. Leather clothing gives an air of authority and makes you “untouchable”. Latex clothing feeds fetishes. Both set you apart from the average bossy woman on the street.
Many folks do see ProDommes as glorified escorts. They don’t know what the term Dominatrix means so they relate it to the closest thing they understand.
Lifestylers tend to disagree with ProDomme sessions for several reasons. MOST ProDommes openly engage in illegal activity such as golden showers and using strap-ons to engage in anal sex with clients. Then they deny they are doing anything illegal or engaging in prostitution even though local state laws explicitly define it as such. Also there are a good number of ProDommes who are not properly trained, have no real interest in the scene outside of making money, have bad attitudes and troll for clients at lifestyle parties (a big no-no). In other cases I think there is more than a little bit of jealousy because, let’s face it, ProDommes oftentimes have awesome toys, outfits and dungeons—your average lifestylers wouldn’t have a place to put it all if they could afford it. For a ProDomme it’s a business expense.
Good article, thanks for posting.
Great article but personally I do not like the financial Dommes, I can understand the pro Domme it is different but the financial often are just lazy women looking for a free ride. ( my view )
Maddie, thanks so much for your reviews. In addition to being very informative, they also often have me laughing my ass off! Well done!
“For example, there’s a “pony” pose that allows you to sit on your sub like you are mounted on a horse. It’s not static, but it doesn’t go anywhere, either” – so you just can get PonyRider for this!I also have it in my store.
About FEMDOM HUD-DELUXE by .::ONIRIA SHOP::.
Hi. That’s the first time I writte a comment about anything here, but…. I do it because I’m totally disagree with the article about this item.
I have it sice October 2010, since ONIRIA SHOP launch it, and…. really I don’t understand the bad reviews posted on the magazine’s article.
About balls…. I don’t know where they test it, but in my case, THE BALLS APPEARS JUST WHERE THEY MUST BE, not four meters from the furniture, and I know what I’m talking about, because I use it very regularly, in any SIM that allows me to rez objects.
About the sequenced anims….. Are they too hard for you?…. Maybe, but not for me. That’s the only HUD I find with different sequences anims, where you (dom), among other things, jump over the shoulders of your sub, you throw down, you move over it to finish by the throat gently with your legs, and all in a full long sequence anim.
In another sequence, you still standing and he kneeling, you give it a kick in his shoulder, he strips down and moving over it, you end up sitting on his face ….
Too hard??…. I do not think so, are different and interesting to use these sequences when we want, not all day every day.
I really think is very interesting HUD and, if you don’t understand anything, you can ask to creator AULEN HELENDALE, she was very pleasent with me with some questions.
You can try it before buy it, because there is a DEMO in the shop to check it.
I leave here the shop LM, because I think the best way is all of you check it by yourself (for all readers of the magazine):
http://slurl.com/secondlife/Glitnir/173/166/22
ONIRIA SHOP – FEMDOM HUD DELUXE
Hi everubody. I’m the creator of FEMDOM HUD DELUXE, from ONIRIA SHOP.
I can understand perfectly that somebody think some anims are too hard, there’s no discusion about it (each one has it own preferences), but I’m not agree about “but about four meters from the poses”.
Please, I invite everybody to check it in the shop, you can use the full menu (there is a DEMO to check)…. and you can see if the anims and furniture are not where they must be.
http://slurl.com/secondlife/Glitnir/173/166/22
Thanks
Well written article. i would like to warn my submissive brothers to be very careful when gifting to strangers for a couple reasons. One, She could use get used to it and resort to blackmail to feed Her addiction if you decide to quit. She probably will have a lot of info. on you as a result. Second, you need money to survive and you aren’t any help to a WOman if you are drained. So think long and hard, pun intended.
Eva said that magazine wouldn’t have happened without you. She had the vision. It was your professionalism and guidance that made it a shining
reality. Thank you Maddie for all you’ve done. Thank you for smiling
through disappointments and deadlines. We salute you! In gratitude, Raffi